What You Put Out is What You Get Back
By Scott Shaw
Life is a complex cornucopia of relationships, human interactions, coincidences, and abstract occurrences. Though we try to find a reason for their happenings, we never truly will.
Since the dawn of rising human consciousness people have attempted to articulate a definition that that would place life into a concise set of defined parameters. Certainly, religion has been at the forefront of this process.
As the world grew substantially smaller, a few hundred years ago, the philosophic ideologies of the various cultures came to be much more interactive. From this, a mishmash of understandings has come to haunt all of our minds — especially those of us who seek true-knowledge and an understanding of universe.
The problem with this philosophic mishmash is, however, the source of the philosophic content has been lost. True understanding of a prescribed religious or philosophic understanding can only be truly comprehended by the individual who was born into that culture. Yes, there are those who move to the source point of a philosophy that they hope to follow and truly immerse themselves into it. But, those people are few and far between. Most, simply hear something, believe that it sounds interesting or good, and then go about spouting this information, (or misinformation), to all those they encounter. Whenever they need to find a justification for what is taking place in their life, especially when that, “Taking place,” involves the actions of others, they turn to this non-understood philosophic regurgitation.
The fact is, most people do not understand what they are saying. They have heard something from someone else, believed that it sounded good in some misdirected, abstract manner, and then walk down the path of spreading it to the world. This is particularly the case when an individual hopes to sound knowable and present himself or herself as a person of knowledge.
Most people are very self-serving and self-involved. From this is born the mindset of focusing all of their life upon how they are feeling about the way life and/or other people are treating them in any particular point in time. From this, what they spread to the world is the expounding of their own thoughts, opinions, and ideologies about other people and other things. Many times these words are defined by using some misunderstood philosophic ideology. In some case, these opinions are very well worded but they are not the truth. Yet, what they say is presented as the truth and this is where all of the world problems of human interaction begin.
This self-involved mindset is particularly the case for those who grew up in an environment where they were not appreciated or nurtured. From this, this style of person developed the very bad habit of instead of looking internally and trying to create and exemplify the positive contributions that they could personally make to the world, they instead spend their life-time focusing on and discussing the acts and actions of others. And, in fact, being held by the emotional responses they receive from people by focusing their life upon the discussion of others. (People love to discuss what others are doing as it takes all focus off of what they are not doing). The actions of a person who bases their life upon this mindset can be small, for example those who hold onto negativity and frequently speak negatively about others; passing their judgments, saying negative things, and spreading rumors. Or, it can be much larger. There are those who spread their opinions to the world.
The problem with encountering life in this fashion is that from this, due to the fact that it is based upon your own opinions and personal appraisals of another person and/or an event, what you say has consequences. What you say and do, due to your personal definitions, set a course of events into motion in your own life, as well as the person you are speaking about. As you have mentioned another person, then you have brought them into your life. You are forever intertwined. Thus, not only have you defined a pathway that you must both walk down together, you have also become responsible for what happens to that person due to the things you have said or done.
The fact is, most people who operate their life from this level of thought do not care. They think only of themselves and if they hurt someone or set a negative course of events into motion in that person’s life they never give it a second thought. They feel they have the right to do so as they think, “This,” as that person did, “That.” But, this is a very selfish and short signed place to live your life from. Moreover, it is what sets the future occurrences for your own life into motion. But, most people never think about this, all they think about is how they are feeling about that person or that thing in a particular moment. And, for those who live in a culture where they are allowed to have a free voice, like here in the West, they spill all kinds of falsities, half-truths, opinions, and lies. Yet, at least in their own mind, they believe they are justified in their action. But, are they?
This is where we must once again return to the original premise of this discussion. Once these types of action have occurred; once someone else has set a course of events into motion, people look for answers. They say when someone does something wrong to them or says something bad about them, “That person will get their karma,” or “They are doing the work of the devil and they will be gong to hell for that.” But, why does anybody believe any of this? They believe it because somebody else said it — someone who knew nothing about the true understanding of karma, god, or how the universe works. They are simply grasping at something to make themselves feel better.
For a moment, let’s put all of that belief-stuff aside. If you had not heard any of this stuff, if none of that mind-junk was in your brain, then what would you do when somebody did or said something that wronged you? It would probably make you descend into your animal nature and do something physical. So, what we can conclude is that though all this mind-stuff is virtually never understood by the person who speaks of it, what it does do is to keep us from lowering ourselves into a state of combat. So, it is not bad in and of itself.
This being said, think about this… When someone has done or said something that hurt you or damaged your life, where did it all being? Did it begin from you? Did you do something wrong? Probably not. If you did, then it is your fault. But, in most cases, when someone is wronged, it is due to the fact that someone intruded into your life space, your life relationships, your life creations and decided that they had the right to be there. Once there, if they said and/or did anything to set a negative course of events into motion in your life, it is all on them. But, here is the point. They did it! Through their words or their deeds they set a course of events into motions. And, as stated, due to those actions your lives are now intertwined. From this, the question arises, are they going to be mind-full enough to care and to try to erase the hurt they unleashed? For each person this is different. Some care enough to care. Others do not. Some are so lost in themselves that all they want is for their opinion to be heard or their actions to be seen so that they can fulfill whatever it lacking within themselves.
As stated, most people are very self-serving and self-involved. No matter what philosophic definition you grasp onto in order to make the negative actions of others not hurt as much as they have hurt you, this will only remain in the level of mind-stuff. If you want to look to something to gain a true understanding about why people do what they do, look to their life, look to what they have lived, look to their interpersonal psychology. Though this will not remove the actions they have done or the words they have spoken at least it may provide you with a new understanding of why they did what they did.
Mostly, what you do sets the next course of events into motion in your life and the lives of those you interact with. What you say equals actions and reactions.
What have you said? What have your done? When you have said and done those things were you thinking about yourself or were you thinking about the other person?
The best thing you can do in life is to only say and do good things. If you are upset with someone be silent. If you love or hate a person never invade their life-space unless you are invited in. What you put out is what you get back.
Be silent, you are free. If you can’t be silent then at least never do or say anything that hurts any one. And, if you already have done something that hurt someone, care enough to undo it.
Remove your desires and your opinions from the equation. What are you left with?
Be more and your life becomes more.
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