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Your Words Are What Gets You Into Trouble

I had to go to one of those soirees last night. It was on the far side of the city, and I had to take off for it at the height of L.A evening traffic. It was a horrendous two-hour drive.
 
It was a dinner event, held at a restaurant. That’s fine. The food was good. But, what the event lead me to was once again realizing the lack of necessity for conversation. I mean, people talk about so much of nothing—they look to find something to talk about. But, what does any of that equal?
 
It always seems that someone seeks me out at these gatherings and wants to know what I do. First of all, I forever try to hide myself at these events. I do that just to avoid such a conversation. When forced into the conversation, “A little bit of this and a little bit of that,” is my common response. But, that doesn’t usual fulfill the, “Askers,” questionnaire. Moreover, I’m always afraid of saying the wrong thing. People have such a propensity for misunderstanding and turning the words of other people around. Thus, I just prefer to say nothing.
 
I always come away from those events feeling a little dirty. …Worried that what I have said may be misunderstood or misinterpreted. That’s why I try to say nothing.
 
Which brings me to the point of all of this. There was this guy sitting across the table from me. Seemed like a nice guy. He spoke about recently going and seeing a concert and stuff like that. But, as it turns out, he has had, what I would consider, an illustrious life. He was in the military where he learned to fly helicopters. After that, he went to work for the L.A.P.D. where he became a SWAT officer. Now, he flies helicopters for the police department and trains others in that field. Plus, one of his sons is studying at Annapolis Naval Academy. This guy has made a true contribution to society but said nothing about it. It was his mother-in-law who told me his story.
 
The thing about life is, there is all of these people spitting so much BS out there, trying to make a name for themselves by saying what they say. Whether it is on the various levels of social media platforms, in magazines, newspapers, blogs, vlogs, you name it… They talk to be heard. They want others to see them as some sort of an authority. But, they have done nothing with their life. Have they served their country? Have the served their community? Have they followed a pathway where they actually work to help and, in fact, save others? Have they set up a generational pathway where their children will do the same? The answer to all of these questions is, no. They just talk.
 
I believe that each of us really needs to step back and think about what we say and why we are saying it. Especially those of us who have not formally walked down the path of True Service. Because if all you are is someone telling others what you think about whatever it is you think about, truly what have you provided to the world?