When you meet most people, they tend to be nice and congenial and whatever it is that you want to call that frame of mind. They say friendly introductory words. And, all is well with the world.
 
Some people, and I’m sure we have all encountered them, when you meet them, they are unpleasant, rude, negative, resentful, and/or all of that kind of stuff and they speak mean or negative words. Their reason for operating from that perspective is based in their own mind. But, don’t you just hate to deal with people like that—those with a scowl on their face?
 
The words people speak also really define any relationship you may or may not have with them. The words a person utilizes have the potential to guide your mood in one direction or another. I’m a sure we have all experienced that, as well. But, does that have to be the end-all of all human interaction—allowing what a person says, and how they say it, to take control over some or all aspects of your being?  
 
I know it is said that we should never let the words of that someone else dominate how we feel or operate. But, you must admit, it’s hard to remain in total control of your emotional being when you must speak with someone who is basing their verbal reality upon such a sense of negativity. Me, when this style of Life Encounter occurs, I can’t help but question, “How have they lived their life based upon such an attitude?”
 
Meaning, words and how they are presented truly shape everyone’s sphere of existence.  
 
From a metaphysical perspective, words are understood to have the potential to truly shape and transform an individual’s actuality. This is the entire bases of the concept of, “Mantra,” which is greatly embraced by the Hindu/Yogic tradition and to a somewhat lessor degree by Buddhist practitioners.
 
A manta is a word or a phrase. Through thousands of years of exploration, that specific word is known to be able to guide a person towards a directed state of mind. For example, when a devote is initiated into a sect, they are giving a specific manta. That is the mantra they are instructed to use every time they sit for meditation. This mantra is chosen by the guru or teacher as the understood means to guide the aspirant towards the state of consciousness they most need to actualize.  
 
Mantra can also be used to guide the mind in a specific direction. For example, the mantra, “Om Shanti,” is used to take the individual towards a peaceful space.
 
From the ontological perspective, people can decide, and I used that word, “Decide,” very precisely, to choose and use the words they speak via very specific means. Most people are not like, however. They just talk. They rarely put any thought into the words they choose to say. They just express themselves based upon whatever animalistic mindset they currently possess: be it happy, sad, angry, joyous, or anywhere in between. This is why there is that subset of people who are just negative and/or mean by their very nature.
 
Here we come down to root reality, everyone has the ability to consciously choose who they are, how they behave, and what they say. But, most people don’t. They just allow their physical reality and the mentality they were born into, combined with their set of life experiences, to take control over them and define who they are and what they say. Thus, they are not a conscious participant in their own reality.
 
I do not imagine that those people with a scowl on their face, commonly speaking negative and demeaning words, have any sense of true peace, happiness, or actualization operating within their being. Thus, they allow all of those undefined forces to create how they interact with their outside reality.
 
So, what can you do when you encounter one of those, not too nice, sort of people, saying words that you do not want to hear. Answer, at least from my perspective, don’t allow them to suck you into their negative reality. If you can, just turn and walk away. If you can’t, be silent. Don’t allow their words to cause you to response. Just give it a moment. Take ten seconds. Let it sink into their own mind what they said, and then respond with the most positive comment possible, while providing yourself with a reason to leave.
 
I mean, there is no obvious one answer, because each situation is defined by its own set of perimeters. But, those are just a couple of suggestions.
 
The thing is, you are never going to change a person who speaks from a position of negativity. You may want to, but it’s just not going to happen. So, do not allow them to suck you into their state of mind. For, at best, if they do, all that will do is send you on emotional rollercoaster—a ride that you do not want to take.

It seems that everyone wants to say something—they want to use their words to be heard, understood, loved, pitied, or to influence the minds of others. Though everyone wants to speak and be heard, should they be?
 
It is only you who can choose to say the right things by using the right words. It is only you who possesses the power over whom you will listen to.
 
Words are a powerful tool and an even more powerful weapon. The words you allow yourself to listen to can shape your reality. Just as the words you say can shape the reality of that someone else.
 
I can say, only say nice positive words. You of a positive mind will immediately understand and embrace that protocol. But, not everyone is of that mindset.
 
Use your words wisely. Use positive words. Use words to move your own consciousness, and those around you, to a higher state of being. Meditate on positive things, like mantra. If you find yourself getting a song stunk in your head, (like we all sometimes do), and you find yourself reverberating negative lyric in your mind, stop it. Turn your mind to a positive thought. Never use words to invoke negativity.
 
The words you speak begin at the basis of your being. Get in there. Clean it up. Only say positive things.