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Someone Else’s Calamity

Look around the world, there is all kinds of true chaos taking place in the lives of so many people. There are regions in Africa where even attempting to exist is so difficult; there is so much violence, poverty, starvation, and death. Regions in the Middle East are plagued by religious wars. There are the attempts to eradicate entire cultures, and force the peoples into slave labor, in China. And, the list goes on and on. There are some people, in some place whose lives are truly placed in peril everyday. Is your?

To answer that question, I would say probably not. If you are reading this blog, I would imagine that your life is okay and livable. Yet, this being said, how much time do you spend seeking out catastrophe?

On the interpersonal level, a lot of people (in fact all of us) encounter a certain amount of pain and suffering in life. These things come at us from all directions and it is hard to guess where it may arise. A lot of bad things happen to a lot of good people. And, this is while living in a stable society.

Think about the times that you have been hurt. Where did that hurt come from? Did someone do something to you? Did something say something about you? It could have arisen from anywhere. For each person, the source of encountered pain is different.

Now, turn this around. Who have you hurt? Why did you hurt them? Do you ever even think about who you have hurt?

Yes, there is a lot of pain in this world. There is wide-spanning pain unleashed in the previously described regions of the world. Then, there is personal pain. Though some of this pain is far more ferocious appearing than the other, pain is pain is pain and no matter how large or small it is, it hurts.

Now, think about this, when you feel pain do you broadcast your discomfort to others? If you do, why do you do this? Most likely, it is because you want to have others relieve you of your pain. You may want them to feel sorry for you or maybe even replace what was removed from your life. Maybe you want them to attack those who hurt you. But, how does causing someone else pain ever change the pain formula? It does not. Pain equals pain equals pain. But, most people never think about this. This is why revenge is so prevalent in the world.

Then, there is the other side of the issue, people that want to jump into the fray. They hear someone else was hurt, so they want to chime in, they want to enter the ring, and they want to do what they can do just because they believe they can do it. But, the fact is, it’s not their battle. Though they may wish to make it their battle by entering someone else’s conflict, all this does is to bring bad karma onto that person. They were not wronged, yet they wronged someone else. Thus, all karma becomes directed towards them. Again, no one ever contemplates this.

When we see someone is being hurt we all, (at least most of us), feel for that person or persons. Whether this is a large scale event or a person-to-person situation, if we are a person who cares, we care. But, more often than not, people do not truly care. They only care about what they are feeling in their own given moment. Mostly, the lives of most people are so empty and boring that they seek out anything that will give them a jolt. Oftentimes that jolt comes from encountering the pain of someone else. From this, they find a new purpose to feel. But, their feeling is not true feeling, it is simply emotional stimulation brought about by the drug of adrenalization. But, what is that? What does that do? All it does is to cause emotional upheaval. It never equals the goodness of enlightenment.

We all feel. We all can feel for the pain of someone else. This can and should be especially the case if that person’s life is truly undergoing a travesty, on a large, no way out, scenario. But, most feeling for others is much more menial than this. It is on a much smaller scale. It is feeling for someone else when that person has nothing more important to focus their mind upon. Thus, as they are empty and not in a good Zen way. They are simply looking for a reason to feel. The easiest place to find that feeling is in strong emotion which may lead to unfocused action which always leads to the creation of bad karma.

So, next time you find yourself feeling for someone else’s something, strongly question why you are feeling what you are feeling. Acutely analyze the entire situation. For, as the old saying goes, “There are always two points of view and the truth is generally somewhere in the middle.” But mostly, never do when it is not your do to do. You can hope to change the pain of someone else by you giving to them and caring for them, but the moment you do anything onto others for what was not done onto you, all you have done is open the door to bad karma flooding onto you, as you did the doing when nothing was done to you.