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When There Are No Consequences

How many times in your life have you felt that someone did something wrong to you but they did not suffer any adverse reaction for them doing that evil deed? I believe for most of, at some point in our life, we have experienced times when we felt that way. Maybe we had something stolen, maybe somebody told some lie about us, maybe someone hurt us in some manner—whatever the case, most likely, we have all encountered situations where we were hurt by the actions of others and we felt they suffered no adverse consequences for doing what they did.

Certainly, if we are a conscious individual we must look at it from the other person’s point of view. Maybe they did something innocently and it just turned out wrong or maybe they didn’t mean it. For them, forgiveness and understanding is the best tool. But, for the majority of life events, when our life, our body, or our possessions are attacked there is one person in the wrong and we all know who they are.

Take a moment and think about your own life. Define one of those moments where you were hurt by the actions of someone else. Were their actions performed in a conscious manner? Did they do what they did with an intended outcome? The answer for most is, yes. A person did what they did knowing or not caring how their actions would hurt your life. So, who is at fault? Without question, they are.

Turn this around for a moment. Think about a time when you hurt someone else. Did you do what you did with intent? If so, why did you do it? Why did you want to hurt that other person? Why did you want to steal? Why did you want to lie? Why did you want to hit? Why did you want to hurt? Or, why did you not care if you hurt that other person? Really take a few moments and define this in your mind. Why did you do it and what were the consequences to you and to the life of that person who you hurt?

For many, when they are hurt they attempt to strike back. For some, this involves telling their stories and/or reporting the crime.

For most who hurt or damage the life of others, and if they are caught, their response involves making excuses, “I did what I did because…” For still others, it involves making up lies—attempting to turn the cause of hurt back around on the other person. But, what is all of this? What does any of this do? Does it change anything or undo the hurt? No, it does not. It simply extenuates the entire process.

It can and should be said that in life we should all be very conscious and knowingly attempt to hurt no one. And, in most cases, as one matures in life, this becomes more and more the coda. Yet, hurt always exists out there. And, hurt is most commonly done by one person to another; no matter how many people are actually involved. In many cases, a person gets away with it. They hurt and they receive no consequences. Then what?

One of the biggest problems in this whole equation is the source of the pain. Who did what to whom and why?

The thing is, there is always one person who exists at the point of inception. There is one person who came up with the idea that eventually leads to hurting someone else. Yes, they are the one to blame. Yes, they are the one who should pay the price for their crime, but do they? In many cases, it does not appear as if they do. Then what?

Now, I could go on about the intricacies of karma and how they will get theirs. But, as I always say, just because a person pays the price for the crime that does not replace or repair the damage to the life of the person they injured. In fact, some people are so wrongfully bold that they take pride in their inflicted injuries and never even think about repairing them.

In life, everybody has a reason for doing what they do. They have a reason that is very logical and sound in their own mind. The hold this reason, they take pride in this reason, and this reason causes them to act, often times in a manner that hurts the life of someone else. They do this until they are stopped. But, stopping someone after they have already done what they have done does not remove the damage that they have caused.

Sure, if you know who the person is who did the bad deed to your life you can go and kick their ass. But, that is illegal. That too is a bad deed. That too may cause you to suffer consequences; legal or otherwise. That is simply you reacting to what someone else has done, thus that person who instigated the bad act in the first place remains in absolute control of the situation.

To begin to find a cure for this situation it must begin with you. Who have you hurt? Have you even tried to repair or erase any hurt you caused? If you have not, how can you focus solely on the hurt inflicted upon you? Thus, no matter how hurt you become at the hands of someone else, if you are not WHOLE enough to see and repair your own wrong doings than why should anyone have any sympathy for you?

Yes, some people may use these words as means to justify their own wrong deeds. But, they are entirely missing the point. Wrong is wrong. Hurt is hurt and you should never do it. If you do hurt someone, intentionally or otherwise, do all you can to fix it. If not, you will forever remain the one at fault.