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The Autobiography That You Will Never Write

For each of us, there is the description of ourselves and our life that we hold in our mind. There is the narrative of how we see ourselves and how we present ourselves to the world. For some of us, this definition is highly defined and very deliberate. For others, it is simply a random set of thoughts and actions that occur with very little prethought. Whatever the case, we are defined by what we do, what we have done, and what we plan to do.

In this self-definition there are things that we have lived that we happily tell everyone. There are also the things that we have done or experienced that we wish no one would ever know about. Between those two extremes there are the mundane elements of life. Things that we have lived and even though they come to our memory from time to time they are seemingly so inconsequential that we never even think about mentioning them to anyone else.

Take a moment right now. Clearly define what you would say about yourself in your autobiography. Really think this through. Then, define to yourself why would you say those things. Now, define what you would say about the other people you have interacted with in your life. Why would you mention those people and those interactions in your autobiography? Why would you describe other people in the manner that you?

Truly define this area of your life. Now ask yourself, why would those things make their way into your autobiography in the first place?

Once you have defined what you would write, now define what you would not write about. What things have you done that you wish to keep hidden from the world? Why do you wish to hide them? Clearly know why you feel what you feel about this area of the life you have lived.

Finally, examine those memories that periodically come to your mind—those memories that you remember but memories that you really don’t find important enough to add them to your autobiography. Why not? Why are they not important enough that they would make it into your life pages? You lived them—you remember them, then why were they not that important?

Our life is defined by the all and the everything that makes up our life. If we are happy, caring, and kind it is generally based in the life experiences we have lived. If we are angry, negative, or hurtful it is generally based in the life experiences we have lived. What have you lived and why have you lived it? Define this and not only will you come to a better, clearer, more precise definition of you and your life but you may also be able to preceded further though your life more focused on making your existence and the memory of your existence more clearly defined.