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The Sanskrit word for impermanence is, “Aityātva.” In fact, there is an entire doctrine of thought devoted to the understanding of impermanence. It is named, “Kaabhaguravāda.”

Here’s the thing, it is very clear that all life is based upon impermanence. Though we all should understand and embrace this concept, that nothing is permanent, it seems we all fight this truth hoping to hold onto those things we care about and we love.

The things we care about and we love span the vast array of all life. Some of those things are people, some of those things are animal friends, some of those things are just things. But, think about it; think about those things that you love. You love them but the fact of the fact is, they are not going to last forever.

Have you ever has someone you cared about pass away. It pretty devastating, isn’t it? You don’t know until you know but when you do know you know.

But, people don’t have to die to leave you. Maybe they just leave you and move on with their life. Heartbreaking.

Then there’s the things… Those things that maybe no one else cares about but you do. Though you know their just things but you want them to last forever. Stupid maybe. But, you care about them and as you care about them you care about them.

I was looking through some production stills from a movie I did a decade ago or so. I noticed that my character was wearing these black and yellow New Balance tennis shoes. Though I had totally forgotten about those shoes, the moment I saw them in the photo I remembered how much I loved those shoes when I had them. I forget what actually happened to them but I guess like all things shoes-orientated they got old and they eventually died.

Seeing them made me wonder if I could get another pair and maybe live a little bit more of that feeling I had when I wore them way back in the way back when. I mean, I’ve been wearing the New Balance 992/993 series for decades and though they have evolved they are still available. Anyway, I did a quest. Nada. It looks like New Balance discontinued that model. I did see an old pair on eBay but they were trashed. It made me wonder who would buy an old, dead pair of tennis shoes for more than fifty bucks? Hey, maybe they’re mine? Just joking, they weren’t size twelve. So, I guess those shoes are gone forever. Sad…

I think back to this one pair of Pumas I used to have in the eighties. I kinda felt the same way about them. I remember I mentioned them in one of my novels, though I can’t tell you exactly where but it was probably in, The Passionate Kiss of Illusion. They, like those New Balance, I really loved. Just so comfortable. Just so me at that point in history. But, they too are gone—long gone. Where or why, I also don’t remember but like all things life, they just eventually disappeared.

Like the lyrics from the Yusuf Islam AKA Cat Stevens songs, “Oh Very Young,”

“Oh very young, what will you leave us this time
You're only dancin' on this earth for a short while
And though your dreams may toss and turn you now
They will vanish away like your dads best jeans
Denim blue, faded up to the sky
And though you want them to last forever
You know they never will
(You know they never will)
And the patches make the goodbye harder still.”

So, here’s the thing, getting and having is grand. Sometimes/many times you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone. Oh crap, I just quoted another song. This one from Joni Mitchell… But, when you find those things, you fall in love with them.

Many things/most things are just there. Maybe you like them, maybe you don’t, maybe they simply exist in your space of life. You use them but you don’t really care about them. Then, there is those other things: those people, those pets, those musical instruments, those cars, those New Balance shoes, those whatever… For whatever reason, you really grow to love them. But, you gotta know they are going to go away.

Some things last longer than others. Some things (and/or people) may out last you—because you ain’t permanent either. Sooner or later it’s all gonna be gone: you me, those things we love, everything… I wish I could say there was a cure for this but there is not. All I can say is just prepare yourself, ‘cause nothing last forever.

You can study the whole cause and effect of all of this in doctrines like the K
aabhaguravāda. But, the fact of the fact is, you just have to face the fact, nothing is permanent. Those shoes you love, they ain’t gonna last forever.