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Stayin’ When You Should’d Been Leavin’

“Let he who is without sin among you be the first to cast a stone at her.” John 8:7

Ever since the dawn of the #metoo movement and later #cancelculture a lot of accusations have been flying all over the place. I’ve written about this a few times over the past couple of years and have discussed some of the repercussions. A lot of people have been making a lot of claims. The key factor in all of this is that someone is calling someone else out for what they believe was their wrongdoings. Okay…

Now, I’m not going to go into the fact that a lot of these accusers have also been proven to be none too pure in all of their dealings with others people. But, who hasn’t? Who is perfectly pure and has done nothing wrong?

One of the key factors I find in all of this Calling Out is one person is blaming another person for what they did to them while they were in some sort of relationship with that person—however that relationship may have been defined. Here’s my question, “Why didn’t you just leave?”

Sure, there are some very bad situations where one person holds another person against their will. That’s flat out wrong. But, in most of these flying accusations, it is defined by one person staying with a person when they should have just left. If they had left, none of the bad would have been allowed to occur.

If you find out a person is a bad, leave. Communicate with them no more. For if you stay, then you have become part of the problem. You have feed the situation. You have become a willing participant in whatever is going on.

It is easy to look back through time and blame someone else for something. I know I have people I look back at and have less than ideal thoughts about based on what they did to me. But, who can I blame but myself for letting that person into my life? Sure, they may have lied to me. Sure, they may have deceived me. Sure, they may have cheated me. Sure, they may have hurt me in some way, shape, or form. But, if I had not chosen to drink the Kool-Aid none of that anything would have happened. And, I imagine some people feel that way about me. I’m no saint.

The main thing about life is, it is easy to throw blame at that someone else. The much harder thing about life is to blame yourself. But, if you choose to willingly interact with anyone for any reason, you are as much to blame for any negative event that takes place as that person you are pointing your finger at.

Your life is your fault. Who is really to blame?