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When It’s Time to Give Up

I pulled up behind a car at a stoplight today. The car and I were in the right turn only lane. The light was red but at least, here in California, you can turn right when there are no cars coming your direction. NO cars coming but the car did nothing. It just sat there. The light turns green, the car continues to not move. Finally, I had to honk. I honked, the car did not move. I honked again; the car still did not move. I lay into my horn; the car turns slowly.

Now, the reason I did not honk sooner, as would be my nature, (I’m not a very patient driver), was that the car had the license plate, UMA DEVI. For those of you who may not know, that license plate, in Sanskrit, says, “Goddess Uma.” Uma is another name for the Hindu goddess, Parvati. As I’m all about that kind of stuff, I let the non-moving slide.

Anyway, as I drive past the car, when it finally moved, I looked in and saw a very small, elderly woman of East Indian descent. She had to be in her nineties. Yet, there she was driving—if you want to call it that. But, she was far too old to be driving.

But, think about it, once upon a time, in the long ago and the far-far away, she was a young beautiful woman. But now; old—far to old to be behind the wheel of a car.

And, this is the thing; most people try to do what they once did far too late in the game. They hold onto the belief that they are still what they once were, doing what they are doing as well as they ever did it. But, all that is just a lie—a lie to one’s self.

How about you? Do you ever question where you are now compared to where you were then? Are you truthful with yourself? Are you truthful with others? Or, do you lie, do you pretend, do you deceive even yourself in this game of life?

There is a time in life when you are becoming. This is the time when you are young. Post that period; you end up with what you end up with, based upon what you did in your becoming to become whatever it is that you now are. This is why youthful focus is so important because it will define the rest of your life.

This is not to say that you cannot learn and do new things throughout your life. But, all things: young or old are defined by age. They are defined by what you did then, leading to where you are now, and what you can or cannot do effectively now.

Take a moment a think about it… What could you do then that you can’t do now? Are you realistic with yourself in this truth? Or, do you live in a world of remembrance and pretend?

You know, we all really need to be honest with ourselves. We all really need to take the time to recognize what we can do and what we should or should not be doing. If you can’t do it well anymore, it’s really time to stop doing it at all. It may not be fun to be honest with yourself. I mean, we all like to remember the way we were in the way back when. But, like I have long said, “No one wants to see old people dance.” Be honest with who and what you actually are. Be truthful with yourself and others about what you should or should not be doing.