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When People Change

Have you ever encountered one of those situation when you meet someone, you like them, you hang out with them, and you come to believe they are a really nice person? Then, you meet someone from their past and they tell about the fact that they used to be a very different person—a very dark individual. You find it hard to believe because the person you know is very nice. But, why would that other person lie? You weren’t there; you didn’t know them then, so how could you know?

The fact of life is, people change. They, at least change on the surface. People evolve. They come to be a better version of themselves. But, the fact of the matter is, not everyone is like this. Some people lock themselves into being a certain way and that is that. How about you?

Have you ever met someone; you thought they were nice but then one day something happens and they completely reveal another, very dark side to themselves that you never thought they possessed? Or, have you been in association with
a person and they promise they will never do that dark something again only to, out of the blue, again exhibit the true person inside of themselves?

It has long been my belief that people do not really change. They hold a root basis for their behavior hidden deep within themselves. Whatever the cause for that behavior is almost unimportant for that behavior is what they exhibit and what they project onto other and onto the world. This being said, some people do possess the ability to take a strong hold over their subconscious and conscious mind and force themselves to become a better representation of that, “I,” that they were given. Again, how about you?

Who are you? How do you behave? How do you think and react differently from how you did a year ago or ten years ago? Have you changed at all? Have you decided to change at all?

Many people lock themselves into the self-proclaimed reality of Self. “That is just who I am.” Many people are so lost to a world of non-self-discovery and they never question anything about their behavior. How about you?

But, there are those few who actually try to evolve—to become a better representation of the, “I,” life has given them.

Many people live in a world and operate from a perspective of ego. This is why there is so much lying in the world. …People hope to be seen as a, “Something,” and/or become something that they are not. People also operate from a perspective of dominance. They gage every person as someone who they can dominate or someone they should not mess with. For those they can dominate, they do. For those they cannot, they steer clear. This is why in this current age, dominated by the abstract realms of the internet, all definition(s) of who and what a person actually is and/or who or what they can or cannot actually do has become clouded. It is all so abstract.

Once upon a time, a person was pretty much defined by the what you see is what you get. Though, of course, there were lies and deceptions. But, by being with a person, by interacting with a person, by studying a person, you could come to know at least who you believed them to be. Today, due to the abstract realm(s) of the internet, this has given birth to a whole new world of deception—for a person can truly conceal who and what they truly are and who and what they once were.

All this being said, what we are left with is what we are left with. What we have is what we have. And, what we have is our meeting a person, maybe liking a person, but then we must decide what is real or false in that person.

Have you ever encountered one of those situation when you meet someone, you like them, you hang out with them, and you come to believe they are a really nice person? Then, you meet someone from their past and they tell about the fact that they used to be a very different person—a very dark individual.

Can a person truly change? Maybe. But, no matter who they are today that does not alleviate who they were yesterday. What they do today does not change what they did yesterday.

What did you do yesterday that you would not do today? Does what you did yesterday define who you are today? Do you hope to hide that person you used to be; who did what you used to do? Have you changed? Have you evolved at all? Or, are you locked into a never-ending cycle of being lost in the never allowing yourself to become MORE?

Life's illusions are a tricky reality. What you see is what you see but what you see may not be real at all.