Right now, take a moment a pull up a bad quality that you have. Turn off all of your self-deception and self-denial and be extremely honest with yourself. What is it that you say, think, or do that is truly detrimental to not only your life but the life of others?
 
This does not have to be just one thing. Maybe there is more than one thing that defines your behavior that is not advantageous to the greater good of your life and to the life of others.
 
Whatever this one, (or more), things may be, clearly, right now, bring it/them into focus.
 
When most people hear about this exercise, they simply dismiss it. They provided all kinds of excuses to themselves, why they should not or do not need to dive deep into the who they truly are. Don’t be that person! Be honest! What do you think, say, or do that is detrimental to your life and the life of others?
 
Once you have a definition of what that something is, bring it clearly into your mind. If you want, you can trace that action back to its source. Why have you chosen to live your life based in this behavior?
 
The problem with doing this, via an unfettered mind, is, however, most people will think about this for a moment or two and then their mind will begin to wander. It will be first filled with excuses and justification and then those thoughts will lead to other, undefined, unimportant thoughts, and you will become lost to a daydream.  All of that helps nothing!
 
Instead, what you need to do is to truly isolate that part of your behavior. Really, bring it into clear mental focus. Once it is in focus, forget all of the Mind Junk that allows you to justify this action or actions. Instead, take a true look at it. How has it hurt your life? How has it hurt the life of others? Be one-hundred percent honest.
 
Now that you have a clear vision of this part of your personality, now that you know what it is that has created negativity in your life-sphere, what are you going to do about it? Really! What are you going to do about it?
 
Like most/like many people do when they encounter a dark truth about themselves, they just go into denial, stating, at best, “That’s just who I am.” Is that all you are? Do you have no control over what you have become?
 
The other side of this is much more proactive. Are you willing to stop doing things that not only hurt yourself and your own life evolution, but hurt the life of others?
 
Ultimately, are you a strong enough person to take control over your life, what you do, and how you do it? Or, are you simply out of control, dominated by your lower self, the things that happened to you in your past, and/or your inability to care about anyone or anything else, only feeding your own uncontrolled actions?
 
Your life is your choice. It is the choice of no one else. You have the power to define how you encounter, deal with, and live your existence. How will you live that existence? Defined by goodness, caring, and giving? Or, defined by nothing more than your lower self and the excuses you make for your actions?