I always find it interesting how when you meet someone, sometimes you hit it off immediately. Other times, it takes some time to get to know a person and then you become friends. In other cases, you meet someone, and though you may both have common interests, because of what they did, said, or how they behaved, you immediately reject them from getting any closer to you. Yet, under different circumstances, you come to understand that had things been different, had they behaved differently, they may have become your friend.
 
I saw an interesting little tidbit in my feed the other day. It was this guy discussing how when you are young, friendships are so much easier to create. You meet, you have a common interest, and you start hanging out. When you are an adult, however, you only allow new people into your life that have something to offer you. You don’t have the time to waste doing naught with people that bring nothing to your life.
 
I know I have felt that way for a long time. People try to come into my life, but as they provide no benefit for me hanging out with them, it’s not that I reject them, I simply do not put in the time or the effort to spend time with them.
 
From a person perspective, it seems that, particularly since I entered the film game some thirty plus years ago, that the only people that want to cozy up to me are those who want something from me or want me to do something for them. This has, of course, evolved over the years; the what I could do for that certain individual. Yet, it has remained a constant. There never seems to be anyone coming up and offering to do something for me while extending a hand of friendship. All of this has made me very standoffish.
 
But, I get it… That’s life. People want to move up and to achieve and to become, and all of that kind of stuff. Like the guy who spoke in that reel said, “As an adult, you only allow new people into your life that have something to offer you.”
 
I think we’ve all let people into our life that later we realized that doing so was a mistake. There’s a million reasons for this, all due to that other person’s actions or behavior. But, there we are, left with the what we are left with after they did whatever they did to us that messed up our life.
 
In life, why have you become friends with anyone you have ever become friends with? Did you ever ask yourself this question during the formative stages of your growing friendship?
 
In life, why have some of your friends fallen away? Was it something they did? Or, did they leave you behind because of something you did? And, what did that loss of friendship mean to both your life and their life?
 
I believe that one of the ultimate elemental truths in life is, people generally only do something that benefits them, whether knowingly or not. Friendship is no different. Though you may not want to admit this fact to yourself, ask yourself this question, did you ever maintain a friendship with anyone who brought nothing positive to your life? 
 
Friendship is a complicated thing. There is all of these things in terms of personality, lifestyle, desires, and a million other elements that come into play in friendships. If you do not take the time to know your reason why for either pursuing or being in a friendship, then you really have not taken the time to know yourself.  Think about all of this…