I believe that everybody wants to be successful in life. Very few people actually desire to fail. Do you know of any? Though certainly, the majority of the world's population seems to be very good at the craft of chasing their desires for achievement, what many/most lives end up embracing is the hard truth that what they are living is not all that they had hoped for.
 
I think a really interesting reality was born a few decades back with the birth of the Internet. I mean, Once Upon a Time it was pretty much clearly dictated that you had to be in one of the major urban centers if you hoped to Make It Big. Bring on the Internet, and instantly anybody could get famous, no matter where they were based.
 
That's a good thing, right?
 
Within that, and without that, there also arose an interesting paradigm. Many people, instead of simply working and chasing their fame of and for themselves, instead they decided to attempt to make their claim to fame based on the reality of someone else.
 
Like I've long said, if you're making a name for yourself by either discussing someone else and/or what they do or create, you are really creating nothing. At best, all you're doing is churning the Word Soup that permeates the reality of all those who have not achieved. Thus, what does any of that—any of what you are doing, really add up to?
 
As I write this, I think to people such as Peter Fonda. In reading his autobiography, you really take note of the fact that a lot of people were discussing his family and himself in the press and elsewhere. And, in virtually all cases, those people who were doing all of the discussing, were generally wrong in their appraisal. Yet, in their doing, they were allowed to make money by writing an article, a biography, a whatever. When you read an autobiography like his, it really brings home the fact of how little people really know about the truth of anyone else's reality.
 
I mean, think about it, how much time do you spend focusing on someone else: what they've done, what they've achieved, what they've created, who they've loved, who they've hated, if you love them, or if you hate them… Compare that to how much time do you spend creating your own greatness? I mean really, how does any of that Out Talking affect any element of the truth of your being?
 
I know in my own life, (and I’m just using myself as an example), I've met people who actually were looking for someone to be mad at. I always thought this was the strangest reality. I would meet somebody. Maybe we would hang out for a while: do some lunches, go to the movies, maybe even make a movie or two, jam some music, whatever… But then, at the end of the day, they would be seeking a reason to become angry, and since I was the closest person at hand, they would decide to focus that anger on me. From that, they did all kinds of dastardly deeds: speaking all kinds of untruths and doing whatever it is they could do to sully my name.  But, what were they doing? What were they achieving? Were they making anything any better? Were they making their own reality better? Were they making my reality better? Were they making the reality of anybody who would listen to their prefocused anger any better? No, I don’t think so.
 
It's kind of like you hear about it all the time, people talking… People talk all kinds of trash about somebody that they choose to focus on. An individual that they have or have not met. They think they know what they're talking about, but all they're doing is creating a bunch of negativity. But ultimately, what happens by embracing that level of negativity? The answer is, nothing more than negativity. And, that negativity inevitability comes back on the person who initially instigated it. That’s just the reality of reality. Love it or hate it, that is the truth.
 
So, what am I talking about here? What I'm talking about is that life is a creative process. You can make that creativity your focus. You can dream to become that whatever you wish to become and then pursue becoming that whatever. You can do that from wherever you are now. You don't have to move to the big city anymore. At least, if you don't want to.
 
I mean, I get asked the same questions all the time, "How do I make a movie? How do I get my writings out there? How do I???"
 
In answer to all of this and more, what you do have to do is, get your mind out of the gutter; if I can borrow that old saying. And, you have to make your reality a better, more positive, and more creative place. How do you do that? Answer, you do it. You stop all forms of outwardly focusing on anything that does not make your reality, and the reality of all those around you, better. You end the negativity. And, you focus on the creativity. You focus on the creating. You focus on the doing well. It can be anything! It can be working in your garden if that's what makes you happy.
 
For example, I know my father-in-law, (RIP), he used to love to create bonsai trees. All his neighbors would ask him to come to their garden and trim their trees for them. And, he happily did it. He refused all forms of payment, except for when he was working for Frank Sinatra. Where was paid quite handsomely. But, for his neighbors, he happily did it for free. Why? Because he loved that creative process. Meaning, creativity can be whatever you see it to be. But, the one thing that true creativity never is, is focusing your unresolved anger, your undefined Mind Junk, and you're unspecified need for embracing negativity anywhere in the external.
 
Be positive. Do good. Be creative. You want to live a good life? You want to achieve your dreams? That's the pathway.