Have you ever had one of those life situations that was not a wanted thing, that was not a good thing, but it was created by someone else?
 
There is a lot of ways this can happen. But, the main component in it is the fact that you did not set the situation into motion. It was instigated by someone else.
 
Have you ever had that happen—that something that altered your life in a negative manner, but it was not something that you did to yourself?
 
I would guess that something like that has happened to most of us. I know it has happened to me. Maybe it was something small. A momentary reality that was not desired; it was here and then it was gone. Or, maybe it was something much larger. A big BANG where somebody did something to you that changed the entire progression of your life.
 
Why don’t you take a moment right now and think about this. Truly take a look at the evolution of your life. Was there someone who did something to you that changed your pattern of progression and development in a negative manner, be it small or large?
 
Now, that you have that situation in your mind, what did you do about it?
 
In some of the cases, some people go all revenge crazy. They try to hurt back.
 
Has that ever happened to you? Have you ever done something to someone else that they did not like and they tried to hurt your life because of the occurrence? If they did, what did that do to your life? Did it actually hurt you back? And, after the doing of the revenge focused deed, what occurred in your life?
 
Have you ever tried to do that to someone else’s life? They hurt you, so you wanted to hurt them. If you have followed that path, what was the result? Did it make you feel better? Did it actually hurt them? Or, did you just set an entirely new trend of negativity into life-motion where hurt only equals more hurt and the cycle continues?
 
The thing about life, what is hurtful to one person maybe be helpful to another. If you love hell, it becomes heaven.
 
On an even deeper level, it comes down to the fact about how you process the hurt unleashed by someone else because stuff like this sadly happens to everyone at one point or another in their life. You can take it as pain and feel all of the feelings associated with such a thing, or you choose to transcend the negativity of what was done to you, turn it around, and either try to learn from it or to create something positive out of the rubble. That’s not easy, but it can be done. How can it be done? By changing the definition of the action that was done to you in your own mind thus redefining the outcome.
 
Have you ever encountered someone, who actually liked the pain—liked to suffer. There’s a of them out there. I’ve known people that when they were hit, would say, “Hit me again.” I’ve also known people who have wallowed in the suffering or negativity, in whatever form that would take. What happened to the life of these people? The answer is different for each. The point being, and these are exaggerated examples, but if you can transcend the negativity of what was done to you, not only do you beat the doer at their own game, but you overcome any negative thoughts and feelings, and thereby come to a better, more powerful state of being. From this, not only do your rise your consciousness to a higher state of understanding, and minimalize the effect of what was done to you, but you prove, without saying or doing anything, that you are more than any person who would unleash negative actions upon anyone.