Just yesterday, I was talking about karma and the way people never seem to blame themselves when negativity comes their direction… After I wrote that, I was driving from one place to another, as life in L.A. promises, and I drove past this one location that a long-lost girlfriend and I used to visit. BAM, it sent me into one of those moments of remembrance. You know how it goes, you don’t think about somebody forever and then, out of the blue, you are reminded of them, and their thought comes to your mind.
 
The one thought that leads to another thing happened, and I thought back to who that girl was and who she would have become.
 
First of all, we were together for quite a while. I was a horrible boyfriend back then. No excuses made. I was an asshole. Eventually, I met someone new and moved on. My life changed. And, I imagine hers did as well. What became of her, I really have no idea. I’m not one of those people who seeks out people from my past. I mean, why? What was, was and what’s now is what’s now. You know, the Train Station Theory.
 
Anyway, I remember her as always one of those people that took. It’s just who she was, I guess. By the end of our relationship, I had given her so much money, so much stuff, took her on trips, bought her a sports car that kept breaking down, etc., etc., etc. I remember by the time of the end of our life interactions she was living over her head in WeHo and she even asked me to buy her some furniture for her apartment, which I did. I even helped her out with rent a few times. This by the time we were not even really together by any standard of definition.
 
Now, don’t get me wrong, I was happy to help out. But, even back then, I realized that she never considered the ME in the equation, just the SHE.
 
As my thought-train continued, I remember she had this one longtime friend. She married a guy who already owned house. Eventually, she divorced him, got alimony, and kept his house. Now, we all know what I think about alimony and palimony and the karmic implications of such things. Even back then, both she and I thought that what her friend had done was pretty fucked up. The guy, the X, got really screwed over. All for what? Answer: Love. Love that was no longer reciprocated. Her friend walked away with a free house and tons of money. Think about the karma in that.  
 
But, back to the flash of memoir. I’ve always had this weird ability to see what people will become and what they do become even if I’m not there to watch it unfold. It’s just a weird aptitude I possess to understand what the pathway they are walking will lead to. I’ve never been wrong.
 
Knowing who this girl was, I’m certain that she too eventually followed the same path as her friend. It’s just who she was. I’m sure she met and maybe married some guy, got divorced, received alimony, and kept the house. Again, it’s just who she was, a taker.
 
I mean, she always promised to pay me back. Though I honestly never expected it, those are the words she spoke. Did she give me anything? Nope.
 
Now, you can say whatever you want about this pattern of life. Maybe you have followed it too—taking as opposed to giving. But, what is the karma in all of that?
 
What I have always found is that the people who walk this pathway always find a justification for their actions. Mostly, they blame the other person. They feel they are due a recompense. But, are they? Is anyone? Two people found their way together. That was a choice. They hung out for a while. That was a choice. If they weren’t kidnapped, they could have left at any time. So, if the relationship goes south, if one person becomes an asshole, and/or does something that the other person considers is wrong, why should they have to pay for the further life-living and life-development of the individual who wants out? Just leave! Own your own shit!
 
The other thing I find with people who walk a karma-filled pathway is that maybe they try to do something good with their life post their breakup. Okay… Good for them. But, if they do it based on a dime collected from someone else, who should get that Good Karma? And, where does the Bad Karma live?
 
The thing is, at a person’s core, they are who they are. Sure, life, life-experiences, and destiny helps to shape all of us, but from birth forward, at our essence, we are who we are and we are going to do what we do based upon that fact.  Karma be dammed.
 
But, should karma be damned? Should it not be thought of and thought out. Should you not care about what you are doing to the other person, no matter how much you may come to blame them, become angry with them, or dislike that other individual?
 
Here’s the fact, taking is only taking. There is no other way to describe it. Giving is only giving. There is no other way to describe it. Who are you? A giver or a taker? In all that you have done, in all that you are doing, what karma are you creating?